Are you an introvert? I am.
Does that seem strange? I have a website, many social media channels and I can more and more be seen on video and even live-streaming, so obviously I’m an extravert right? Nah.
Extroverts (or extraverts) are widely accepted to be sociable, gregarious, talkative and energetic, whereas introverts are expected to be more reserved, shy and solitary. Carl Jung, the Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst viewed these two types as not only on a continuum but much more blended than others and this is how I feel too.
We all have traits of both types, but some are more dominant at one end of the continuum than others. In many of us, as we grow up and realise that being shy can put us at a disadvantage, we behave in a more outgoing way, even though inside we are still shy. Yep, that’s me.
Many empaths and lightworkers are introverts in many ways. They get exhausted by busy places and social situations. They enjoy socialising because they love people. But at the same time, they often prefer not to, because it takes so much mental and emotional energy.
“Introverts are capable of acting like extroverts for the sake of work they consider important, people they love, or anything they value highly.”
Susan Cain , Author of “Quiet,: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking”
Susan Cain sums it up for me perfectly. I will act like an extrovert to spend time with people I love, and to share my love of, for example, crystals. I actually love teaching. And whilst it is very scary for me to stand up in a room full of people, if that’s for sharing knowledge and helping people learn and grow, it’s worth it. Whereas put me in a room full of friends and acquaintances and expect me to make small talk and I feel drained, awkward and shy.
It’s totally OK to be an introvert. Whether an outwardly shy or outwardly friendly introvert! I’m a hugger, I like to meet new people, but preferably a few at a time. I do go to big events, whether concerts, Mind Body Spirit events or big family gatherings and yes, I enjoy them. But being an introvert I just don’t manage as much or for as long as someone more extroverted would.
So, am I going to suggest crystals to help you “get over your introversion” or to “cure” you? Absolutely not!
I was really surprised when reading my crystal books that so many of the crystals recommended are for overcoming introversion. What I want is something that will be my friend when I’m embracing that side of me, but also give me a boost when I have to socialise or other types of “people-ing”.
Black tourmaline is a super friend to introverts.
It is super protective and acts as a shield against chaotic environments and negative energies. It transmutes and cleanses negative energies into positive so it is also very helpful after being in a busy environment. Whilst “people-ing” it allows us to less bombarded and calmer. It keeps us grounded and feeling safe and steady.
Blue lace agate is all about self-expression.
It helps us to communicate our feelings and thoughts more freely and clearly. It helps conversation flow when it has to, but more importantly gives us the words and grace to speak our truth and gracefully say no when we need to.
Tiger’s Eye is the best of both worlds.
It gives us grounding and protection, yet with it’s golden stripes boosts our self-confidence as well. It uplifts our mood as well as our energy., but orders our thoughts and helps us feel in control. As a stone of wisdom and abundance too, it’s a definite win-win.
Are you an introvert? Maybe an outward extrovert but inwardly introverted? Let me know your top tips for nurturing your lovely self and protecting your space.